Was just talking to a friend the other day. Somewhere the topic diverted to me being too possessive about someone. My friend started telling me how bad it was to be over possessive. By being possessive I am actually becoming a hinderance in someone's growth.
If I let go... give freedom... allow to go out and explore the world... it makes the other person more independent. On the other hand, if I become possessive, not allowing the other person to breathe... I'm actually hindering the growth.
The discussion went on for some time and I knew my friend was right and I was wrong.
Finally, at one point I said "I know I'm wrong, but this is how it works for me..."
For about 5 seconds I was actually silent as I realised the effect of what I had just said.
Knowingly or unknowingly, we are all stuck in this trap. We know we are doing wrong but still we don't (or rather Can't) drop the wrong. We try all means and excuses to justify whatever we are doing. Giving all kinds of reasons and trying to prove what we are doing is right.
Then a point comes when we finally accept and say this same sentence "I know I'm wrong but... (and whatever follows to complete this sentence is just a sign of our helplessness)
I know even today there are so many aspects about me where I know I'm wrong and I'm trying to improve on them.
The key is to let go of this sentence and work for a solution. Trust me, its a lot easier said than done. Solutions can at times be painful.
I know as I write this, I'm moving closer to dropping the wrongs which I know I have...
If I let go... give freedom... allow to go out and explore the world... it makes the other person more independent. On the other hand, if I become possessive, not allowing the other person to breathe... I'm actually hindering the growth.
The discussion went on for some time and I knew my friend was right and I was wrong.
Finally, at one point I said "I know I'm wrong, but this is how it works for me..."
For about 5 seconds I was actually silent as I realised the effect of what I had just said.
Knowingly or unknowingly, we are all stuck in this trap. We know we are doing wrong but still we don't (or rather Can't) drop the wrong. We try all means and excuses to justify whatever we are doing. Giving all kinds of reasons and trying to prove what we are doing is right.
Then a point comes when we finally accept and say this same sentence "I know I'm wrong but... (and whatever follows to complete this sentence is just a sign of our helplessness)
I know even today there are so many aspects about me where I know I'm wrong and I'm trying to improve on them.
The key is to let go of this sentence and work for a solution. Trust me, its a lot easier said than done. Solutions can at times be painful.
I know as I write this, I'm moving closer to dropping the wrongs which I know I have...
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