Was watching a game show on TV where a guy winning Rs 5,000,000 was faced with a question for Rs 10,000,000. He had one celebrity on the show to help him out with the question. The celebrity guest gave him the answer and it turned out right...
There was euphoria all over the sets, everyone was happy, everyone was celebrating and dancing... Just for a split second they showed the face of that celebrity and he was wiping his tears off.
Why was he crying?
From our childhood, we have been brought up being told that we should not cry... crying is a sign of weakness... Crying is for girls only... etc.... etc... etc...
I was lucky enough to have a teacher explain to me the science behind crying.
In short, lets just say that when our mind doesn't know how to handle a certain emotion, it processes that emotion into tears and we cry...
That is the reason why we feel like crying when we are too happy, too emotional, too sad and so on...
It is ok to cry out of joy...
It is ok to cry out of happiness...
It is ok to cry out of gratitude...
It is ok to cry out of compassion... feeling the pain of another person...
Maybe, just maybe it is ok to cry in pain...
But going on crying out of one's own pain is not ok.
You keep crying because there are challenges in your life, because someone doesn't love you, because you are ugly, because you are fat, because someone said something to you, because you are not good in studies... because god made you as a boy or a girl... and for all the possible reasons...
Answer one question for me:
I cried when I lost a loved one. That day I cried a lot, cried like a baby. Will you be ok if I continue to cry even today for that one loss which happened years ago???
No... right? If you see me crying today for someone who died ages ago, you will probably ask me to go see a doctor... right or not?
Then why do you have to hold on to one thing and keep crying about it?
"Gulshan, you don't understand my position, my pain, my sufferings"...
Darling, I don't even want to understand...
I Hindu system of belief, when someone dies, there is a mourning period of 13 days, after which everyone moves on with life...
Religion itself says that even death doesn't deserve more than 13 days of crying...
If you think its worth crying, then cry... cry right now... cry out as loud as you can... cry till your lungs, throat and eyes start paining... continue to cry till you feel content... and once you are done crying, decide that you will never cry for this thing again...
Whatever the reason has been so far, the crying has to end today...
Make a decision today that you will not cry out of your own pain again and then see, even He won't be able to give you a reason to cry...
I'm not against crying...Tears are the purest form of expression...
Crying is ok as long as it is out of feeling for other person's feelings, whether joy or sorrow... that brings us closer to that other person...
Crying is ok as long as it leads you into action and results in a solution...
Crying out of self pity and self pain is utterhelplessness... It only releases negative vibrations around you which will encompass even your loved ones...
Make a decision... Make it now...
There was euphoria all over the sets, everyone was happy, everyone was celebrating and dancing... Just for a split second they showed the face of that celebrity and he was wiping his tears off.
Why was he crying?
From our childhood, we have been brought up being told that we should not cry... crying is a sign of weakness... Crying is for girls only... etc.... etc... etc...
I was lucky enough to have a teacher explain to me the science behind crying.
In short, lets just say that when our mind doesn't know how to handle a certain emotion, it processes that emotion into tears and we cry...
That is the reason why we feel like crying when we are too happy, too emotional, too sad and so on...
It is ok to cry out of joy...
It is ok to cry out of happiness...
It is ok to cry out of gratitude...
It is ok to cry out of compassion... feeling the pain of another person...
Maybe, just maybe it is ok to cry in pain...
But going on crying out of one's own pain is not ok.
You keep crying because there are challenges in your life, because someone doesn't love you, because you are ugly, because you are fat, because someone said something to you, because you are not good in studies... because god made you as a boy or a girl... and for all the possible reasons...
Answer one question for me:
I cried when I lost a loved one. That day I cried a lot, cried like a baby. Will you be ok if I continue to cry even today for that one loss which happened years ago???
No... right? If you see me crying today for someone who died ages ago, you will probably ask me to go see a doctor... right or not?
Then why do you have to hold on to one thing and keep crying about it?
"Gulshan, you don't understand my position, my pain, my sufferings"...
Darling, I don't even want to understand...
I Hindu system of belief, when someone dies, there is a mourning period of 13 days, after which everyone moves on with life...
Religion itself says that even death doesn't deserve more than 13 days of crying...
If you think its worth crying, then cry... cry right now... cry out as loud as you can... cry till your lungs, throat and eyes start paining... continue to cry till you feel content... and once you are done crying, decide that you will never cry for this thing again...
Whatever the reason has been so far, the crying has to end today...
Make a decision today that you will not cry out of your own pain again and then see, even He won't be able to give you a reason to cry...
I'm not against crying...Tears are the purest form of expression...
Crying is ok as long as it is out of feeling for other person's feelings, whether joy or sorrow... that brings us closer to that other person...
Crying is ok as long as it leads you into action and results in a solution...
Crying out of self pity and self pain is utterhelplessness... It only releases negative vibrations around you which will encompass even your loved ones...
Make a decision... Make it now...
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